Wedding day nerves. It’s the same feeling as sitting your
driving test, or taking your first sit-down exam.
We can assure you that as soon as you see your betrothed at
the end of the aisle, those nerves will disappear, but how do you cope with
them in the meantime? Well, to give you some top tips on calming those wedding
day nerves in the lead-up to and on the big day itself, we have enlisted the
help of Eleanor Copp, one of the UK’s leading lights in dealing with anxiety in
all walks of life, as well as being a hypnotherapist and eminent midwife.
Identify your list of chief concerns
Make a list, get some hierarchy and perspective going.
Identify your big worries, know the smaller ones and accept them.
Surround yourself with positive people
Anyone that has an agenda about your wedding should not even
be in your vicinity. If there are certain friends or family members that are
causing problems, do not engage with them.
Talk about your anxieties
Any doubts about anything will fester so articulate them to
your nearest and dearest, don’t get distracted but do tackle what you need to
tackle them. Confronting them and taking action will instantly reduce stress
levels.
Focus on your breathing
If you start feeling anxious, focus on your breath, and in
particular, your diaphragm. And become calm – yoga is a brilliant way to learn
body awareness, build stamina to stress and remain flexible, emotionally and
physically. Take it up! Spending five minutes each day focusing only on
your breath is a fantastic strategy for dealing with worry.
Look ahead with positivity
Start visioning a wonderful day ahead of you, with people who
want to share it with you… This is the gift of a wedding.
Allow yourself to be supported
This wedding is not solely your responsibility, you can
delegate tasks to chosen trusted friends, you do not have to be the one holding
it all together alone.
Think of your posture
If you think you’re getting overwhelmed you will look at the
floor more, give and receive eye contact less and your voice will become more
high pitched. If you haven’t realised yet you are stressed, those around will
have done. Acupuncture is a brilliant way to counteract the manifestations of
tension and finding a good practitioner will pay dividends.
Allow yourself to be pampered
Let go and relax. Have fun in the run up, lighten up, see
the funny side to any conflict.
Rehearse the day in your mind
Mentally walk through what will happen on the day, from
beginning to end. If there are parts you are worried about (these are usually
the aisle walk, the vows and the speeches) focus on your role in that only –
you can’t control what anyone else does or says.
Be positive
Smile, be happy and enjoy your wedding day. It’s going to be
amazing!